How Blogging Boosted My Self-Esteem
So if you’ve been on my blog, you’ll know that I have Major Depression, some OCD, and some anxiety. It’s something that doesn’t come easy, and it’s also not easy to get into control.
I’ve tried so many things in the past; a lot of therapy, self-help groups, and tons and tons of reading. But there’s only so much you can do! My self-esteem hasn’t always been great as a result, and will forever be an internal struggle.
Then I came across blogging.
Blogging was such a foreign concept for me. I only thought it was for people to use it as a diary or post recipes. I really didn’t know what a blog actually was.
I began to read about it and found out it was so so much more than that. It was a place for people to share tips, ideas, recipes, and basically, inspire their readers! I started reading blogs about anything and everything! Then one day I came across some bloggers that taught others how easy it was to start one, and it peaked my interest.
But what would people think of me and my blog? Would they like my writing style? Would they like what I wrote about? Would they like me? (Where’s that self-esteem when you need it?)
When you think about it, it’s scary to put yourself out there. Especially in front of a billion strangers on the internet.
I didn’t even tell my friends I started a blog. I was already going through a tough time as it is when I first started. Then when it came down to it, I had no idea what to write about. I had no idea what to write that people would actually WANT to read.
What was I knowledgeable in? What am I confident in? This blog shouldn’t be a chore, but something fun for myself.
Thinking about it, I love food, I love to save money, and I have a lot of experience with mental health. So these would be my “niche” so to say. At last, I would have some type of direction.
Of course, your first post on your blog is always your “about me” – which in itself is so terrifying to write. It’s really hard to write about yourself, to put yourself out there, and have you summarized in a couple paragraphs for strangers to get to know you better.
Then one day I said “F*** it, Elaine. Just write.”
And I did.
My first couple pieces on my blog were about the most random things and I still didn’t know what people would want to read about in my niche. I think it was because I still wasn’t confident in my writing, both the style and context. I was doing this alone and didn’t have anyone to one-on-one coach me to have my blog successful.
It was a lot of trial and error, but also a lot of growth.
I began to set small goals for myself and my blog, and slowly but surely I gained more confidence! People were commenting on my articles, I was getting compliments, I gained more followers on social media, I had 3 articles published in The Mighty and Thought Catalog, my pins of my articles were being shared, and my blog traffic began to rise.
(Whew, that’s a lot!)
Some of my most popular posts:
But I was still alone.
I joined a few Facebook groups to have some support about blogging, and man oh man are they wonderful! There’s so many out there, but the people in all the groups are just right where you are, or they’ve been there before. They know what’s up. I don’t think I’d be able to do this without those communities. They really cheer you on!
What is the secret to blogging and gaining confidence?
Don’t give up.
Don’t give up.
Don’t give up.
There are plenty of days where I question myself “Why did I start this blog? Should I shut it down? WHY in the heck am I doing this?”
Elaine, you’re doing it for yourself. You got this.
Just keep truckin’. You’ll have good days and bad, but you’ll always be able to look back at your older posts and see how much you’ve grown as a person, and as a blog. (I’ve definitely read some old posts and say “What was I thinking??”)
But realizing how much I’ve grown in the past few months, the relationships I’ve formed and the opportunities that have come to me, it really does make you get those warm and fuzzies and that confidence boosts everyone needs.
I’ve definitely come to the terms that though it takes some work and it’s worth every second.
Want to start your own blog?
Like others, I’ve put together some tutorials about starting a blog from scratch as I’ve had quite a few people ask for direction and advice! Check out these posts:
- How to easily start your WordPress blog with iPage in 10 minutes (And under $1.99/month!)
- The Ultimate Guide to Starting Your Blog From Scratch
Have you always wanted to start your own blog? How has blogging helped you? Let me know!